Wednesday, 18 January 2012 | By: The One Woman


(27 WEEKS)
Baby blues
So here I am again, fatter and tardy as ever but that leaves for an epically long post doesn't it.
Speaking of long posts, it's been a long road and I found that after trying to understand what pregnancy is and how to do it right, I hadn't addressed just how much I've been through these past 7 months. I haven't left any room to look after my mental health at all because I didn't think that I mattered anymore. It's not easy and I'm sure I am certainly not alone in feeling like this. It got to a point over Christmas where I decided to do something about the way I’ve been treated and the way I feel so that I can enjoy the last few months of my pregnancy and not impinge this negativity on to my son.
Seeking medical help
Firstly I spoke to my midwife about how I felt and that I thought I might need to talk to someone professional. She referred me to a consultant to make sure that what I have been through doesn't lead to *post natal depression. The consultant isn't the person who will treat me, they assessed me just gage what level of help I need. This will then lead to a tailor made plan for therapy and life classes, and you know what? It’s free and it's helpful so I can't sniff at that. So it all starts with talking to your midwife as soon as possible and not being scared to.
(please see link below)
Alternative therapies
I joined a guided meditation and aromatherapy group with some close friends near my city and go there weekly and have a healing session monthly. I am not opposed to turning my brain off for 1 hour a week in a calm environment and that’s what meditation brings to me. No thoughts of baby or life or anything, bliss in fact. The groups are generally free with a suggested donation so it's not going to break the bank for you and is SO worth it. I also checked reviews and talked to friends who were experienced with meditation and connected to groups in my area. 
It was also suggested by my midwife that I make sure I schedule an hour a day for me. This may sound over the top but I make sure in that I write in my diary a time for that one hour to do something nice for me. So I may soak in a steamy lavender bath and perch my laptop on the loo to watch Dexter whilst I prune up, go for a walk in one of the parks with a flask of tea and my camera. You get the idea, just me, myself and I and some time out. I have come to realize that one hour a day is vital and needed.
(please see link below for further information regarding alternative therapies)

(please see link below for NHS recommended alternatives to medication)
Now this is an experiment but I did this for me. I went for a 4D scan to connect with my son a little bit, I felt that I had started to drift from my special time being pregnant and thought that this might help. I feel closer to him now I know what he looks like and what he was getting up to in there. I now sit and imagine him, I play music to him and talk to him. It personally really helped me and I’d recommend it to anyone in my situation.
I used The package included at 45 minute scan, 8 pictures and a DVD to take home and watch. (packages range from £65 to £170)

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